I did not see this coming. When Taylisha and I started the process of picking names for our twins, we didn’t yet know the genders. But even before the gender reveal, we had settled on one name: Caron Nasir Burton. If we had two boys, or a boy and a girl, Caron would be one… Continue Reading →

One month, two babies, three lessons

July 15 marked one month to the day that twins Caron and Austin were born. I’m not sure if you call that a birthday or an anniversary or something else, but it’s some kind of milestone that a lot of parents recognize. As much of a celebration for the babies as a high-five for the… Continue Reading →

Where does the cat fit in with the new babies?

It was around 4:30 a.m. I had just quieted a screaming Caron with a bottle of liquid gold when I heard an extra-loud gulping. Realizing it wasn’t Caron, I turned around to see our cat, Stokely, throwing up all over the living room. My unfortunate choice of words: “Dammit, Stokely, I don’t have time for… Continue Reading →

The Notorious N.I.C.U.

We were warned. Early and often during the pregnancy, our doctors left little doubt that one or both of the twins would spend some time in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) after they were born. Ours was already a high-risk pregnancy, and with twins typically being delivered earlier than the full term of 40… Continue Reading →

Birth Day

This is all I’ve ever wanted. If you know me well, you knew that. And I know I can say the same for my fiancee. Caron Nasir Burton made his debut on June 15 at 12:42 p.m., weighing in at 4 pounds and 14 ounces. Austin Robinson Burton followed his twin brother at 12:43 p.m.,… Continue Reading →

Black fear in the hour of chaos

For the last seven months, this pregnancy has been defined for me by fear and dread as much as it’s been defined by excitement and anticipation. Tay and I found out in November via home pregnancy test that we were expecting. From then until our appointment a few days later to confirm the results, I… Continue Reading →

‘We’re gonna need a bigger car’

I don’t know how many two-income couples in their 30s are still one-car households, but that’s what my fiancee and I were before yesterday. That’s entirely because I didn’t come into this relationship with a car. I didn’t even come into this relationship with a driver’s license. I know that’s even more rare. It’s not… Continue Reading →

Mother’s Day before motherhood

If my math is correct, the majority of expecting mothers will experience one Mother’s Day while they are still pregnant before giving birth. My fiancee is one of the expecting mothers to fall into that group. This year, Mother’s Day (May 10) came 6 or 7 weeks before our planned delivery date in June. The… Continue Reading →

Loss before gain: How to grieve during pregnancy

On a recent Sunday evening, my fiancee’s mother passed away. Mrs. Robinson — who I will sometimes refer to as my mother-in-law, since I already call my fiancee “wife” on a regular basis — had been dealing with a series of health issues since beating breast cancer years ago. As many people have unfortunately learned… Continue Reading →


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